Babies and 'I like children'

chapters in Things pondered

Breastfeeding

When I saw Breastfeeding for dummies and another book in the library, I wondered if there is so much to fill books on it. I do find breastfeeding soothing solutions article helpful in getting an idea of things involved. In the child care class, the instructor did tell that the bacteria could go into the bottle but I didnt know that a breastfeeding mom could be prone to it too. I caught the words hind milk in the class but did not know of its importance in baby's weight gain until I filled a quiz on nursing.

expressing  - pressing out 

Child care class

A video on child care was running on the tv when we walked in early to the class. It was all about the cues to look for when the baby is hungry, playful, overstimulated.
Rooting in infants.
We learnt diapering, swaddling.
The instructor asked us to put a hand on the baby if we are stretching to find things for bathing, so that baby does not flip her/his self to the floor.
While listening to how to wipe the eyes off, while giving the bath, the thing about not to use the same piece for both the eyes is so common sense, so just that hopefully helps all the parents through.

Jennifer Cooke suggests putting a small marshmallow in the icecream cone, so it doesnt drip.

A very interesting birthday setup prompt - flying high

praising their good behavior but keeping it real.
memory in children
good sportsmanship 

Co-ed or not?

We live in a world of both the sexes, so why shouldnt the learning be in such an environment.

Michael Gurian, an educator shows the structural differences in the brains of girls and boys and the implications of it on their learning in Boys and girls learn differently.

Beating Tantrums

In Jacqueline Burt's article, 7 easy ways to fix bad behavior, I liked the 'Validate before Disciplining' approach.The author says that according to Gary Unruh kids act out for a reason. I remember a time I threw bread slices onto the floor complaining that my mom was favoring my sis and bro. At that time, I could count, so it would be easy to see if my allegation was true. I wonder what was my reason.
Catherine hickem, author of Regret free parenting believes that motherhood is not just about raising the child right but also the growth of mother herself.

What can go into a kids mouth?

When I first read of frozen watercolours, I wondered how can you stop the kids at popping those colourful cool things into their mouth? Here's the answer. These World's Coolest Watercolors are edible.
Yesterday I saw an yr old kid chew on his bib. Mentally, I was stopping him from chewing it. Then the mom told me that he was teething.

combining breastfeeding with formula
walking worries - To avoid SIDS, we lay the back on babies but lying on tummy improves neck and trunk muscles.
teach kids to tell time - Who doesnt remember bugging their parents with 'are we there yet?'. Just a second is a new book which is sure to make your kids ask more questions about ounces and kelp while they learn what can happen in a minute, hour, day.
new discipline

Easy to say no

We are always reading about 'how to say no' as adults when you are in a situation where you cant get yourself to. Kids these days seem to have no problem saying no. A parent said that the reason for it is the constant 'noing' that they get from the parents warnign them before they can do what they like to. katy rank lev talks reminds the parents that 'we're too nefative' in her discipline mistakes all moms make. It is going to be a great language exercise if we have to say every 'no' sentence of ours to reflect what to do than what not to.
In the elbulli kitchen, you should not run. How would you say that to the stagiaires?
'We only walk in the kitchen, so that we dont spill stuff?'.

The verts

Bringing out the best in your child, an article by Jennifer Graham Kizer is an excellent article on your tiny tots, their different behavior and expectations based on their being extrovert or introvert. A bonus is the subsection on how the parent-child behavior pans out based on the parent and child being of the opposite kind of the verts.
She quotes authors of The Self aware parent and The introvert advanatge.

A 3yr old kid going home after a birthday party was upset that the parents were not taking home the big present they brought along with them.

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You moved

In Payson, I didnt believe my eyes when my belly became a mountain, a cone.
It happened twice.

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Sound of adults

A nose clearing from the bathroom. Its the husband.
The last I heard of an adult do that in the house is my father.

To pee or not

A kid approached his mom in a telling look which meant that he has to pee. He has been potty trained.
"Its ok. You are in a diaper".
Isnt it confusing for the child to respond differently to the nature's call depending on  where they are at that time.

Learning words

At the doctors hospital, a little girl had magazines around her, in her lap. She even held one rightside up.
It was her parents turn to meet the doctor.
"Put them back".
"back".
And thats how kids pick words. Repeat what they hear and thus increase their vocabulary.
Deb Roy of MIT, recorded his son's first 3 years in Speechome project to understand how children acquire language.

blogs by parents

captaindad
childwild
Motherlode - NYT

baby crib central

In dreams:
We stop as we reach the pavement.
"Do you know which direction to take for our house?" Right.
"What colour do you like?"

Why do kids like toys? Are they trying to play the adults roles by having a passive toy for a kid?
When little they like all things colourful. When do they form their preferences for the colours? They might like the colours of their favourite things like say icecream.

Inklings

Day before yesterday, you didnt show your usual activity in the afternoon after lunch. when I complained to your dad, he rubbed my belly and you moved.

Yesterday at the doctors, I felt a movement. So when the Dr was measuring your heartbeat, even she could feel your movement. The Dr said she could see some legs and body parts.

Now you are active in the afternoon, evening and night when I am reading.

Last night I dreamt that I held the belly and could feel your spine. Even better than that I saw you as a newborn. You were taller than my legs where I placed you on. You had thick eyebrows. Mom was there with me.  You might get your uncle's features.

mom blogs and mags

blogher
Dotmoms
brain child
mothering
literarymama
ivillage
salon
urbanbaby
babycenter

Mothers who think tales of real life parenthood

Blankets

I hear that kids are so attached to their blankets that one friend had to sew her son's blanket onto a bigger blanket so that he could cover himself fully as the kid kept growing and the favorite blanket wouldnt grow. Another friend had to rush home to get the princess blanket so that the baby could go to sleep away from home. If a blanket can serve as a baby's little home, a mobile tent, so be it. Its easier to that one piece of something that they are used to than the whole house.

A magic blanket in Tim O Brien story.

ultra sound pictures

In your second ultrasound picture, I couldnt figure the up side from down. A friend of mine saw humor in a long appendage so much that she framed it in a blue frame. My colleague an expert reader told me that the mystery was the central bone of the head. Initial pictures look like a skeleton like the 'no smoking' warning.

Very(nearly) pregnant

I cant stand chocolate cake smell now. I stopped drinking tea. I am drinking milk now. The down side is that this way I am having only one cup. But I am making up by eating 2 eggs alternate days. I eat in the evening too. I used to eat at around the same time before, but now there is a dinner too, mostly rotis.
I kept two tops from 8 years ago. A green and a marron one. flowy sleeves with slits towards the wrist. I bought them in Noida. A while ago my friend's mil gave me a colorful top, the only problem with it was that it was very huge and had a rectangle cut. It was like the clothes we made for dolls by just cutting out a neck from a folded rectangle. I didnt think i would ever use it. But now its perfect. A long while ago, another friend gave me a black top with lindian beads and thrread work, red print in the front. She gave it to me because it was small for her and it turned out to be big for me. I kept it anyhow for the pretty top that it is. Now it fits like a T. A friend from NJ gave me a pair of maternity tops and jeans with elastic band that covers the belly. Another friend picked some clothes from a sale to go through another picking by me. She hemmed the jeans for me. I feel comfortable in active wear. So I got myself a pair last week.
I had nausea until third month. It was severe if I didnt eat in time in the morning. Mostly bile. I noted a marked difference in energy levels in the 4th month. I was out shopping for groceries on a saturday until late afternoon and was still on my feet.
Now you have started kicking after I have my lunch.

prompt from 'Writing Motherhood' by Lisa Garrigues.

Clothes

Today we bought you a pair of white shoes. Two sleeveless tops from Old Navy.
We spent so much time in shopping, feel like the day just melted away.

inappropriately dressed - Thinking about memoir exercise.  The author of the book had fry jack.

On a Teachers day in high school, I became a Kindergarten teacher. That day I had to wear a sari as teachers wear saris to school. My attire needed readjusting twice or thrice as the day went along. What a day for the buses to go on a strike. In an unforgiviing attire, I walked home on a dry grass land, holding onto the swaths of the fabric that kept slipping out from the waist.

First kick

Sunday night, I felt your kick for the first time. I wanted your dad to be with me, when you kicked for the first time, so I could make him feel your activity too. After second kick, I was certain of it and made your sleepy dad feel your kick, It was around 2 in the night. I am never up at that time, but this day from an overdose of chickpeas, I had an upset stomach making a 7 time trip to you-will-know-where.
It was a faint kick with gaps.

Second trimester

I feel lot more energetic now.
The ultra sound showed the baby's legs and hands - teeny while the head and the belly were the lion's share of he body. I mistook the neck for the back.

We see your heart pulse

Baby, we saw your heart beat on the ultra sound today. I forgot myself and was in squeals as the sonographer pointed your pulsing heart, budding arms, head and brain. Your heartbeat is at 150 bpm. I then recalled reading about it a long time ago in

We wanted to go to Priya, so your father could try the Dum Biryani, the place being close to the sonography, as luck had it, it turned out to be that they had some difficulty being open, as we were scouting around for food, we had  achoice between Wendy's and Marcellos. Marcellos won.

Your celebration lunch - baked Ziti with marinara and chicken marinara with sphagetti oglio.

Belly music for soothing baby.

There are some days where I feel satisfied with work. I could do it even without being paid.

Looking over the poems, I found animal themes. As I was looking from that perspective everything seemed to fit into it. Scylla and Charbidis too.

Heaps of wrath

My colleagues detest the way I work and discuss behind that I dont fit the lax work culture anymore. A mongoose with a blue face bites me.

Revelation

A psychiatrist once told me that suicide is not one event but a confluence of many happening all at once, and all of the conditions have to be right for the person to go through with it. First of all, you need despair, and yet strangely enough, while you are in despair the secons thing you need is the will to do it, which, when you think about it, is a strange combination. Third, you need the weapon;  fourth, you need to be alone; and fifth and last, you need the opportunity.

- Crossing the unknown sea, David Whyte

What about a young man working in a factory?
What reason can a school girl, a pharmacist's daughter have?
An overwhelmed mayor of Ashland?

When asked in The Power of Memoir to recall the deaths you know of as a child, the memory so neatly skips some. To remember death of a family number in its recounting, you should be at an age where you can realise its meaning of loss.

Can a felt loss of  a persons death be used as a definition of him/her belonging to a family?

A community calendar.

The siblings. While going to school, all my friends had their siblings along with them.

untold promise kept

Last night I slept around 10.34 when my eyes hurt. I gave myself to sleep with a hope/faith that I will get up early if my body has requiste hours of sleep.
In the morning I woke p at 4.50.

Good day

To catch a fail in hardware, the test engineer wrote a program to test all the cases. It takes a long time to simulate this. after taking a look at the fail, the design engineer wanted a test case with just the failing case. I asked the test engineer if he had a quick way of going to the error. Looking at the sim, design engineer had a clear idea of how to reproduce the fail. The test engineer had asked to confirm the fail for an untested combination. the fix had been suggested. From the fix, the error should be present in all the cases. when I could make a test just for the fail case, it felt good. When the untested condition wouldnt fail for the settings, it felt good figuring out the reason.
I am trying to figure the relation between us and our work.

Bibliomania

I was aching for writing books and the library spirits heard it and now I have my hands on The power of memoir  and The Journal keeper .

Now I can issue as many books as I want from the library. Well the limit is 35 or so and i dont reach that on crazy days too. How will I manage if I go to a place where you are allowed at the max 2 ? I want access to all the books in the world.

If the libraries dont have the books I want, I will have to get into the business of getting the books I want to the libraries.

Library as a temple.

Today is the first time my alias from a dream and a poem from dream get online. My Blue Notebook.